Sunday, August 9, 2009

More Tips for Dealing with Anger

A MODEL FOR MAKING YOUR ANGER PRODUCTIVE

1. Consciously acknowledge to yourself that you are angry.
2. Restrain your immediate response.
3. Locate the focus of your anger.
4. Analyze your options.
5. Take constructive action.

HOW TO RESPOND TO AN ANGRY PERSON

1. Listen to their story.
2. Listen: Ask them to tell their story again.
3. Listen: Ask questions that clarify their story.
4. Try to understand the angry person’s situation.
5. Express to the person your understanding of their situation.
6. Share additional information that may shed light on the subject.
7. Confess any wrongdoing and perform restitution.

SIX STRATEGIES FOR HANDLING ANGER IN MARRIAGE

1. Acknowledge the reality of anger.
2. Agree to acknowledge your anger to each other.
3. Agree that verbal or physical explosions that attack
the other person are not appropriate responses to anger.
4. Agree to seek en explanation before passing judgment.
5. Agree to seek a resolution.
6. Agree to affirm your leave for each other.

HOW NOT TO RESPOND TO AN ANGRY PERSON

1. After listening once, jump into the conversation and set the
person straight on all the facts.
2. Tell the person to stop being angry.
3. Escalate the situation out of control by being angry back.

Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way
(former title: The Other Side of Love -- Handling Anger in a Godly Way)
by Dr. Gary Chapman © 2007.

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